Abandoning Dating at Middle Age in Favor of Friendship: Time for going Lysistrata on this
With dating off auto-erotically asphyxiating itself, let’s turn to friendship. Instead of settling for less when we’re dating at middle age, let’s demand more, just on the inside instead of the exterior.
The Intersection of Guilt and Abuse: When we fail to believe we deserve better
Like so many who have fallen into abuse, I rationalized that I could help him to change. He needed me. Having failed to save my husband, I wanted to save someone, even someone who wasn’t very nice to me.
This Is How We Can Overcome the Bitterness Of Middle-Aged Dating
If I could describe middle-aged daters in one word, it would be bitter. And that bitterness is destroying our chances at finding love. Let’s overcome that bitterness with a beginner’s mind.
Why is Dating in Middle Age so Hostile? It All Started on the Playground
To me, so much of the dysfunction surrounding dating in middle age boils down to the way men and women of my generation were taught to behave. Specifically, little boys were brought up to conquer while girls were brought up to be docile.
On Dating at Middle Age: Where Are All the GrownUp Men?
When I started dating again after being widowed at fifty, I wondered, where are the men who act like grown ups? The ones who get their gutters cleaned, keep their homes reasonably tidy, have edible food in their refrigerators, and want a life partner instead of easy sex.
Ending The One Upmanship Of Middle-Aged Dating
My best advice: To find love, develop your empathy muscle. In my experience, many middle-aged men have let it atrophy. Dating at fifty was like being in a wolf pack, or worse, a law firm.