There was no talk of love, only of control. It all seemed to come down to a power struggle: how much were midlife women willing to put up with to have male companionship? How little effort could midlife men get away with while still remaining sexually active?
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With dating off auto-erotically asphyxiating itself, let’s turn to friendship. Instead of settling for less when we’re dating at middle age, let’s demand more, just on the inside instead of the exterior.
If I could describe middle-aged daters in one word, it would be bitter. And that bitterness is destroying our chances at finding love. Let’s overcome that bitterness with a beginner’s mind.
To me, so much of the dysfunction surrounding dating in middle age boils down to the way men and women of my generation were taught to behave. Specifically, little boys were brought up to conquer while girls were brought up to be docile.
When I started dating again after being widowed at fifty, I wondered, where are the men who act like grown ups? The ones who get their gutters cleaned, keep their homes reasonably tidy, have edible food in their refrigerators, and want a life partner instead of easy sex.
My best advice: To find love, develop your empathy muscle. In my experience, many middle-aged men have let it atrophy. Dating at fifty was like being in a wolf pack, or worse, a law firm.
Number One: Dating and Regurgitation Do Not Mix
